HANDLING THOSE "CAT-EYES"

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Some time ago, I came across an "oyibo" lady who was on a first time visit to Nigeria. We got talking and she complained about the unfriendly behaviour of Nigerian women. According to her, "when you say hello to them, they look at you from head to toe as if you have so much dirt on your body". I just kept smiling as she narrated her confusion; her experience was very relatable.

Many times, you step into a party or a banking hall or even a church looking so dressed up and "expensive" and next, you notice some "cat-eyes" staring and analysing you from head to toe till their eyes fall from their sockets. At first I used to feel embarrassed and nervous about such occurrences but as it happened more frequently I came to the conclusion that it was just one of those repulsive behaviours exhibited by many women nowadays which is born out of envy and unhappiness.

But I still wonder why they find it difficult to just walk up to you and complement your outfit and ask for your designer's contact or address. Rather, they prefer to stare at you in the most disgusting way, making you feel so uncomfortable. Some even go as far as secretly taking pictures of your outfit which is rather annoying and disrespectful.

The truth is that people with such behaviour are usually insecure, depressed, too envious or probably can't afford your look. The best you can do at such instances is to ignore and look away from them so they don't get to lower your confidence or make you feel uncomfortable or awkward.

And to such people on this table just described, its best to quit such disgusting behaviour. If you admire the look of another person, feel free to give a brief and straightforward compliment rather than stand there and hate on the person. If you care to get a similar outfit for yourself, politely ask for the contact or address of his or her designer or the address of the boutique he or she got it from if it is an "already-made". That way, you both leave smiling rather than feeling uncomfortable.

In a nutshell, don't hate on the look of another person, a kind complement will ease things up!

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