"I EXPECTED BETTER FROM HIM"

Recently, an acquaintance complained bitterly of how an age-long close friend of his refused to offer him financial assistance when he knew he badly needed it. "I expected better from him", he kept saying. He went on ranting about how all his close friends were "fair weather friends" who could never be counted on. He failed to realize however that they actually don't owe him anything.

Often we get disappointed and begin to rant about certain people we "expected so much from". We then see them as fake friends who have little or no concern for our need. But we fail to realize that we are the ones who keep setting ourselves up for disappointment and possible frustration because we have a ridiculously high sense of entitlement. But the truth is, nobody owes you anything. We are all imperfect human beings with both personal and external challenges and different people react differently to external or "extra" burdens. Some take such burdens as theirs and are ever willing to go the extra mile in order to lend a helping hand. Meanwhile, Some feel their personal issues are bad enough for them and so do not have the temperance to entertain other people's problems. In my opinion, this latter category of individuals may not be necessarily insensitive but many a times, they just find their own problems too overwhelming. 

Going by this, I believe it's just wisdom to reduce your sense of entitlement and expect less from people generally in order to reduce the frequency of disappointment because even the people we count on the most may badly want to be of help but may lack the capacity to do so at that point in time. Therefore, it's better to reduce one's sense of entitlement to prevent disappointment. Also, you please probably don't want people to see you as a parasite. Besides, it's better to expect less and get more; the feeling is priceless. 

So quit expecting so much from people and save yourself the disappointment because in reality, those we count on the most tend to disappoint us. So save yourself the trouble and try to be more self-dependent.

Thank you so much for reading this post. I leave you with this quote:

"No one owes you anything. If we live our lives expecting people to hand us anything, we’ll not only alienate all of our friends, but we’ll create a situation where our value is puffed up and manufactured, and not based on our actual value. When something goes wrong, when crisis comes, we are left feeling bankrupt".

-Josh Hatcher