EVERY MAN GOT HIS OWN TIME
It really made her feel bad and jealous in a way. She tried to get rid of all the sad disturbing thoughts but they just kept coming; she couldn’t help it. Every girl in her “gang” had walked down the aisle except herself and Bukky but just yesterday, Bukky came flaunting her wedding invite. Now she would soon be the one “singular” among her friends. It wasn’t easy getting rid of the depressing thought of not having a “legit” boyfriend not to talk of a fiancé or husband. To worsen issues, some of her “married” friends had began to drift from her; maybe they were trying to adhered to the “principle” that once you get married, your friends should change (apparently from single to married friends).
Gradually, this issue began to lower her self-esteem; she began to feel like a “last one” in everything. She recalled the period of “admission hustle” were everyone of her friends got admitted into school except her. So while they were in school, she had to deal with the frustrating of repeating JAMB and coping with loneliness. It was just so impossible for her to get rid of the thought of being left behind. Things got so bad with her and her depression increased by the day. It began to affect her job, her attitude to people, her mindset and her life in general. She became so desperate that she saw herself flirting with every Tom Dick and Harry. Every guy that work up to her became an option, she just wanted to be “married”. But the sad part was that none of these guys turned out to be serious about her and it was as if she was going to lose her mind.
But thanks to an elderly marriage counsel she met at a conference. She poured out her heart to the old lady. She had bottled so much grievances in her heart for so long and finally found someone she could talk to. The old lady had had a similar experience when she was single so it was so easy for her to relate. To cut the long story short, the old lady was able to bring her back to her senses and make her understand that “every man has his own time”. That brought an end to all the craziness and now she’s back to her normal self. Though she’s yet to find someone but at least, she’s no longer desperate.
I’m sure a lot of us can relate to her experience in one way or the other. To be sincere, it’s not easy to be happy for other people when it’s “happening for them” but it never seems to be “happening for us”. The truth is that many a times, we don’t even realize when jealousy comes into the picture, at least not immediately. But often times, we fail to realize that “every man has his own time”; that’s just the way the world is. So the fact that other people are having it their way but it seems your prayers are not even going beyond the roof doesn’t mean that your life is cursed neither does it make you a failure. Like a musician once said “everything is turn by turn” so wait for your turn. Of course it’s easier said than done but you have to learn the act of being patient because there are natural orders you can’t change. So let’s tell ourselves the simple truth; THINGS CAN’T WORK OUT AT THE SAME TIME FOR EVERY BODY.
Thank so much for reading this post. I leave you with this quote:
“Don’t let the success of others constitute your disappointment, rather let it be your motivation to work and pray harder because something mind blowing is on the way”
-Temituope Kekema
Gradually, this issue began to lower her self-esteem; she began to feel like a “last one” in everything. She recalled the period of “admission hustle” were everyone of her friends got admitted into school except her. So while they were in school, she had to deal with the frustrating of repeating JAMB and coping with loneliness. It was just so impossible for her to get rid of the thought of being left behind. Things got so bad with her and her depression increased by the day. It began to affect her job, her attitude to people, her mindset and her life in general. She became so desperate that she saw herself flirting with every Tom Dick and Harry. Every guy that work up to her became an option, she just wanted to be “married”. But the sad part was that none of these guys turned out to be serious about her and it was as if she was going to lose her mind.
But thanks to an elderly marriage counsel she met at a conference. She poured out her heart to the old lady. She had bottled so much grievances in her heart for so long and finally found someone she could talk to. The old lady had had a similar experience when she was single so it was so easy for her to relate. To cut the long story short, the old lady was able to bring her back to her senses and make her understand that “every man has his own time”. That brought an end to all the craziness and now she’s back to her normal self. Though she’s yet to find someone but at least, she’s no longer desperate.
I’m sure a lot of us can relate to her experience in one way or the other. To be sincere, it’s not easy to be happy for other people when it’s “happening for them” but it never seems to be “happening for us”. The truth is that many a times, we don’t even realize when jealousy comes into the picture, at least not immediately. But often times, we fail to realize that “every man has his own time”; that’s just the way the world is. So the fact that other people are having it their way but it seems your prayers are not even going beyond the roof doesn’t mean that your life is cursed neither does it make you a failure. Like a musician once said “everything is turn by turn” so wait for your turn. Of course it’s easier said than done but you have to learn the act of being patient because there are natural orders you can’t change. So let’s tell ourselves the simple truth; THINGS CAN’T WORK OUT AT THE SAME TIME FOR EVERY BODY.
Thank so much for reading this post. I leave you with this quote:
“Don’t let the success of others constitute your disappointment, rather let it be your motivation to work and pray harder because something mind blowing is on the way”
-Temituope Kekema
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